This morning I read an awesome blog post from our adoption agency, Lifeline. I love it when I read something that articulates things better than I ever could!! I have heard many of these same things from my fellow mama friends who have already adopted or are in the process of adopting. So, today I am sharing some excerpts that I hope let our family and friends have insight into what we are learning, and experiencing now and possibly in the future.
“Adoption – It is both messy and beautiful. It is both unnatural and, yet, very natural. It is difficult and it is rewarding. Unfortunately unlike other things in life, it is not an “or.” Adoption is an “and.”
Adoption is messy. Adoption always begins in tragedy for a child. There is no child who has ever been adopted or who currently waits to be adopted who has not personally experienced loss, tragedy, and the depravity of man. Children are neglected, abandoned, and abused. Children are born into situations where even loving parents don’t feel they have the resources or ability to parent. Children have lost one or both parents to death. This is tragedy and this is messy. It is because we live in a sin-sick world that the words “orphan” and “adoption” exist. Because we live in a sin-sick world, we desperately need a Savior.
Adoption is beautiful. Adoption is a beautiful picture of grace and mercy. It is the restoration of a family and the restoration from brokenness caused by the loss of relationships. For sinners, Christ adopts us when we follow Him and that is the most beautiful adoption of all.
Adoption can be unnatural. It is never best for a child to lose his or her parents to tragedy. It is never the natural way that children should be raised. Our prayer is for the restoration of birth families and for indigenous adoption when and where possible.
Simultaneously, adoption is also very natural. Physical adoption can be very natural and is a majestic picture of love that transcends race, culture, and blood. Spiritual adoption is always natural as it is a return to our Creator whom we have rebelled against. It is reconciling with the true Lord not the pseudo idols we create as a result of our sin.
Adoption is difficult. It is costly; it is laborious; it is complicated; and it is a pursuit. It is hard to navigate between the truth and the fiction of adoption. It is complicated for a child to assimilate into a new family, a new culture, and a new identity. Our spiritual adoption cost Jesus his life and caused the weight and burden of our sin to be placed on his back. Adoption is always challenging and costly.
Adoption is rewarding. Even through the hardships, difficulties, and sleepless nights – physical adoption is rewarding. Spiritual adoption by our Heavenly Father is the greatest reward of all.”
Thanks for walking with us on this beautiful and messy journey of adoption!
Our love to each of you~
PS-Here is a fun side of the adoption right now…both the boys’ and girls’ rooms are ready for the Ticos. Can I just say my man is a rock star?!!!